It is probably an opportune time to talk about the very real ongoing pressures that carers and families face every day.

There is a relentlessness of daily routines, therapies, school refusals, health practitioner refusals and ongoing meltdowns. Let’s face it, not many in the everyday community have any idea what a day looks like for many who care for anyone with complex needs. They might have empathy on the surface but that is where it ends. Often, we are also barraged by completing forms, forms for Centrelink, forms for NDIS and other government departments especially when your child is becoming a young adult – without the ability to make these decisions for themselves.

Then the ongoing s***show that is NDIS, whereby the community and media is constantly disparaging it for overspending, and then the resulting unjustified cuts to participants budgets leading many to bow out of the system altogether that was principally designed to help people with disability lead a more dignified and safer life. Somehow putting extreme pressure on parents to provide yet more reports from therapists or even worse, get a re-diagnosis because what was gold standard 5-10 years ago has been replaced and it no longer fits their tick box system.

Pressures on carers are at an all-time high and many have little to no supports outside of this system of NDIS providers as all previous groups and supports disappeared when NDIS took over.

For me personally, I have reached out to Carers SA which is based in Adelaide however I know that the Carer Gateway https://www.carergateway.gov.au/ can link you with services in your own cities https://www.carergateway.gov.au/about-us/local-service-provider. I now belong to a peer group, which is designed to support carers in a small group setting, a social group which is an outing with other carers, an opportunity to get out and about and there is also 1-1 counselling. The counselling only encompasses 6 sessions, but it might be a circuit breaker for some who need 1-1 support outside of a group setting. These services are free of charge which makes it a little different to the Medicare supported psychology sessions which can have a significant gap which many can’t afford. Carer supported groups and counselling can make the isolation and stress a little easier to bear, as you are surrounded by people who ‘get it’ and are non-judging of your circumstances.

Please reach out to the Carer Gateway if you think you could benefit, I know it helped me and it might help you too.